All relationships ebb and flow over the years. We fall out of touch with friends, fall back in love with exes, and reconnect and lose contact with acquaintances constantly. When it comes to relationships, it’s tempting to try and predict the future. It’s easy to fall into the habit of scrutinizing every interaction to determine what lies ahead. There are definitely green flags to be on the watch for, but red flags can be cautionary. There’s actually a number of studies on long-term relationships, and their results can be incredibly revealing about your own relationship.
Defining a Stable Relationship
Everyone has their own unique standards for relationship stability. Generally speaking, though, a stable relationship will feed on itself over time. Interactions between partners helps craft individual feelings of satisfaction as each person boosts or detracts from the other person’s well-being. It’s not the average, day to day that matters as much as overall stability of the dynamic.
Individual personalities also play a role in relationship stability. When you’re happy, optimistic, and well-adjusted, you’re more likely to invest time in the health of your relationship. Those who were raised in a household that promoted healthy relationship attitudes may be more securely attached and able to communicate their feelings more clearly. That’s not to say that anxiously attached or avoidantly attached individuals can’t find relationship stability; those people may just have to spend a little more time working to understand themselves and their partner than average.
Take an Active Role
Stable relationships don’t just happen. Simply hoping for the best won’t create change in your dynamic. Instead, if there’s something about your relationship you dislike, it’s important to consider why you have those feelings and how you might go about introducing change. This kind of radical honesty requires buy-in from both people in the relationship. Communication, as they say, is key. If you can’t have open, honest conversations about your relationship concerns, it may be time to explore couple’s therapy. In therapy, you can build these skills together and demonstrate your investment into your future together as a couple.
Schedule Your Couple’s Therapy Appointment Today
If there’s something concerning you about your relationship, couples therapy can do wonders to address your unease. You and your partner can work to develop the skills and tools required to face any challenge imaginable. Contact us now to schedule your first appointment.